As I was first exploring the BDSM scene it was intimidating and there was a dearth of information about all of the different aspects. My main interest was having some good bondage experiences like I saw in the porn I would jerk off to I really was not sure how to go about doing it. Safety was of paramount concern and, ultimately, I did not actually have a bondage experience until I met my partner TOIL. Over time we gradually became comfortable inviting a sub or two over to experiment with bondage and D/s roles. This was a process that evolved over several years because I was (and really am still today) risk averse.
I share this with you to help give context to why I share posts about what I have learned since we had our first sub over back in 2004. In my posts I do not intend to imply, and one should not infer, that there is only one way to do something. If any of my posts come off as brash feel free to contact me as that is not the intent. My goal with these posts is to help people feel comfortable joining the community instead of hiding their fetish. I wish more people with experience would openly share their thoughts and ideas as that is how a community grows. As we share our experiences and ideas with each other we learn new things and have a new perspective on what we already knew.
Based upon the feedback I have received about the topics on my blog I know a number of you have found my posts beneficial. This is a significant reason that I have these posts on my blog. Take a look at this post on Vagabondage’s blog for an example of how he has positively impacted one of his readers. Examples like this make sharing kinky ideas with others so much fun.
Always my best,